Inspirations For Weddings Magazine
May 01, 2018
Dropping some WEDDING PLANNING TRUTH bombs from brides who look back on their BIG DAY PREP
HINDSIGHT IS 20/20, so they say. And since planning a wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event, you don’t exactly get a lot of chances for do-overs unless an upcoming vow renewal is on the docket. The next best thing? Finding out as much as you can from the ones that came before you. Here are some useful things other brides wished they knew when they were doing the wedding planning:
“You could be the most organized person in the world and still be dealing with last minute details on the day of the wedding!” -B.A.
Let’s face it: All the binders, e-mails, phone calls, and SMS exchanges are for naught, if your suppliers don’t actually deliver what is expected on the day itself. And it would be a shame if you couldn’t sit back and just savor the event because you were too busy making sure that people did their jobs correctly. That’s where the on-the-day coordinator comes in. Endorse all the prep with peace of mind and enjoy your special day.
“Taking on friends and family as suppliers might not be the best idea, whether free or paid for.” -D.B.
Sure, it’s tempting to take on the offer of this friend or that relative to sponsor one aspect of the wedding, but think twice: Are they good for it? Can they take the time out from their schedule to make it happen? And if they don’t readily provide you with what was promised, are you assertive enough to follow up or emphasize exactly what you want? With the professionals, you at least get your specs in writing to safeguard your interests as well as theirs. The stress you put on your loved ones to hold up their end of the deal might not lead to the tears of joy you were hoping for on the big day.
“No matter how independent you are, family inevitably gets involved.” -O.M.
Even modern couples who agree to split the expenses 50-50 will still have to deal with the odd, overbearing relative. It could be anything from insisting on adding a bunch of people to an already-finalized guest list to suddenly springing on you an archaic family tradition they want you to uphold. It pays to discuss the scenario early on with your significant other. What allowances are you willing to make, and how do you politely shut down those pushy requests that you can’t accommodate?
“It would’ve been so helpful to have a joint e-mail account for all communications with suppliers!” -K.F
.Taking advantage of the digital age means being able to interact with your suppliers even without needing to set up a face-to-face appointment every single time. And to make the back and forth as efficient as possible, it’s ideal for everyone to be on the same page from the very start. This is especially true if you are delegating tasks to your partner. You’ll be able to check that notes and documents have been sent out, so less time for catching up and more time for moving onto the next task.
In the same vein, you could set up a Viber or Facebook group message with your coordinator to make the updates more accessible.
INSPIRATIONS FOR WEDDINGS ONLINE MAGAZINE l VOLUME 6 ISSUE 11 l pp 54
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