Inspirations for Weddings & Debuts Magazine / Weddings That Inspire / August 27, 2020

Kris and Jaymee: Accepting The New Plan




Kristofferson Austria and Jaymee Manrique didn't realize right away that their dream wedding in May hardly had a chance of pushing through. It was only when a month was left before their original wedding date, May 1, when the couple understood that they needed to adjust their plans.

Jaymee, who's very close to her family says she wasn't excited to walk down the aisle without her immediate family, a reality she needed to come to terms with because of the mass gathering guidelines. "I wasn't really excited to walk down the aisle without my parents beside me and my siblings not inside the church to witness it. I am very close to my family and I just couldn't imagine my wedding without them," she says. But when more lax guidelines were announced in July, Kris and Jaymee saw their chance to have a bit more people at their wedding ceremony.

"With all of the things stripped down to the basics because of the limitations, the actual wedding rites stood out for us. Receiving God's blessings and saying our vows at the altar is what's important after all," Jaymee says. 

She adds, "Once we accepted that this was something beyond our control already and we opened our hearts to God's plan, it made it easier to adjust."

Scroll down to see more of Kris and Jaymee's wedding photos and to read what their journey to the altar was like, in Jaymee's own words.

Photos by and courtesy of GDG Film

The Dream Team: 

Church: St. John Bosco Parish Church | Reception: Bloom Café + Bar | Gown: Jeannette Roxas | Suit: JML Tailoring | Hair and makeup: The Touch of Hazel | Face Masks: Crafted By Rache | Flowers: Dangwa Florist | Wedding Cake: Jengbakes | Wines: Winery.ph | Brownies and Chocovron: Big Oven | Photos and Video: GDGFilm | Audio and Livestream: PARAMINT

Related: Kevin and Bea: Just the Essentials

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Our original plan was an italian-rustic themed wedding with 170 guests at St. John Bosco with reception at Manila Polo club. We wanted to get married on May 1 so that our wedding anniversary will be on a holiday. When the lockdown happened last March, we didn't think it would last long and didn't make any adjustments. Reality sank in by April and the situation wasn't getting any better so we decided to go for a simple church wedding still on May 1 and move the grand celebration to September.


From that point on, we were always checking on IATF guidelines on weddings and gatherings and we always ended up anxious and uncertain if our dream celebration is still feasible by September. Especially our May 1 wedding. It didn't push thru because City Hall was closed and we couldn't get our marriage license. They only opened around end of May.


By May, Kris and I realized that it wasn't safe and feasible to hold a grand celebration any time this year. Our coordinator also advised to postpone the celebration to next year. But we didn't want to wait until 2021 to start our lives together. So we agreed that a simple church wedding ceremony will do as long as we got married this year--and the sooner, the better.


However, with the limit of 10 people only inside the church, I wasn't really excited to walk down the aisle without my parents beside me and my siblings not inside the church to witness it. I am very close to my family and I just couldn't imagine my wedding without them. (Our immediate family members including us were a total of 11 people.) The July announcement that religious gatherings were allowed 10% capacity was an answered prayer! Our church could hold 300 people inside so we were allowed up to 30 people inside! We knew this was our chance and we had to take action before the government decides to impose stricter regulations by August.


We used our gown and suit because they were already finished last April. We also still had hair and makeup, and photo and video team, and an audio team to handle the live zoom call. Because even if it was going to be a simple wedding, we wanted it to be documented and viewed by our families and friends in their homes. We chose to hold a simple dinner reception at Bloom Cafe and Bar at Greenbelt 3 since our original reception venue was still closed. I didn't want our parents to be troubled with dinner preparations at home.


We had uniform face masks with our logos designed by our friend. Our families and friends had to practice social distancing, except for me and my husband during the ceremony at the church. My husband prepared a surprise song number during dinner. He sang “I'm Always Gonna Love You” by Jon MacLaughlin and I was so kilig! Our guests at home participated in our games online via Kahoot and Poll Everywhere. We requested for some of our friends to give speeches and well wishes via Zoom.


Our favorite moments were the ceremony rituals and “kiss the bride” moment. With all of the things stripped down to the basics because of the limitations, the actual wedding rites stood out for us. Receiving God's blessings and saying our vows at the altar is what's important after all.

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The sooner you accept that it's going to be a lot different from your original plan, the better. Once we accepted that this was something beyond our control already and we opened our hearts to God's plan, it made it easier to adjust. It allowed us to focus on the essentials. In the end, we were both happy and content that we didn't feel the need to have a big celebration next year. In the future, we'll fondly look back at this day and share the story of our wedding during a pandemic to our grandchildren.


Choose your non-negotiables so you can focus on what's important to you. If you both feel like having that grand dream wedding with all of your guests, then you have to accept that you need to postpone it to a much later date. But if you are like us and want to start spending your lives together, you really have to adjust. The sooner you are able to accept that your wedding will be different from what you originally planned, the more you will be at peace and be happy with it.


Also, don't be afraid to negotiate with your suppliers. They'll be happy to help you adjust. If you are working on a limited allowable headcount, maximize it. You can delegate tasks and assign a member of the family or friend to do the event coordination, hosting, or whatever tasks they can help you with. Although I wasn't able to book my coordinator during my wedding, I feel their presence would have been a big help--that is if you can squeeze them in your headcount.


Lastly, pray a lot! I firmly believe that God has greater plans for us than we do. Let Him lead you and surprise you to your dream wedding.













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